This question is the one many of us ask ourselves at some point in our lives because we don’t seem to having success with finding someone or sustaining an existing relationship. The natal chart is the best starting point for looking at how we relate and to whom. In fact, when I do an in-depth compatibility report I typically start with a look at the natal charts of the individuals involved.This young woman is an Aquarius Sun, Capricorn Moon and Pisces Rising and she has Saturn in Virgo on the Descendant. There is a very good reason she is starting to raise serious questions about her relationship issues . . . Saturn just moved into Virgo by transit and she’s starting into her Saturn Return. Even though it will be September 2009 before her Saturn Return is exact, Saturn is now approaching her natal Jupiter in Virgo which opposes her Mercury in Pisces – hence the questions. Saturn Returns are the culmination of a cycle of growth, not an isolated event.

There are a couple of themes that I see in her chart that tie into her ability to develop lasting relationships. One is her Aquarius Sun is square to Uranus in Scorpio adding more emphasis to her need to function independently as does her Venus in Aries in the 1st House. To say she is her own person is an understatement! On the other hand, she has a mild mannered Pisces Rising and Saturn on her Descendant suggesting that she takes what she sees as her responsibilities as a partner very seriously.

Mercury is the ruler of her Descendant and is in Pisces conjunct the asteroid Pallas in her 12th House. Pallas/Athena is the goddess who sprang full-grown from the mind of Zeus and is noted for her clear, sharp mind. With this combo in the 12th in Pisces, I’d say this is a person who can pull seemingly unrelated facts from thin air and make sense of them. Problem solving is her forte at least in the mental realm.

The paradox here is her chart is predominately yin in nature favoring Earth and Water signs and yet she has a Locomotive Chart pattern with Jupiter as the lead planet. This is typically the chart of a highly motivated individual. Her Moon is in Capricorn which is inclined to place practical concerns before emotional ones. This is also a very private placement of the Moon when it comes to expressing what they really feel. Her Moon is trine to Jupiter and Mars in Virgo in the 6th House bringing us back to vocational interests. Her chart speaks to me of a very career oriented, professional person interested in helping others.

So how is this very bright, discerning and practical young woman going to find a lasting partner for herself? My suggestion is that she acknowledge that it is she who will be doing the choosing and start thinking about the kind of man she would be most happy with . . . With Saturn on the cusp of the 7th, this person may be older, definitely responsible and productive, and willing to let her be who she is – independent and a self-starter. Mars/Jupiter conjunct in Virgo in the 6th suggests a co-worker or at least a professional person of some kind, possibly in the Service industry.

If she has been using her Pisces Ascendant as a smoke screen to camouflage her true nature for one reason or another, it may be time for her to re-consider this and fly her true colors, showing the World her fine mind and organizational abilities and desire to help others. I have found over the years how deeply important it is to state up front who we are and what we want. It saves a lot of time and misunderstandings and we can be pleasantly surprised! In order to draw those people to us that will best suit us, the bottom line is we need to be very clear about who we really are and what we really want and put that out there!! I wish her good fortune and much happiness on this path . . .

The Princess/Queen of Swords tells us to assert our individuality so that all will know our authentic self.