I have a feeling that, for many of us, life won’t be the same after this week. Maybe you have a sense of this already.
As the week begins, Mercury is still retrograde but is heading down the home stretch. He stations direct on Saturday (Sunday in the Eastern Hemisphere). In the meantime, we should start seeing the effects of the New Moon in Gemini, even though the results may be delayed by a week or so. Good news is always welcome.
On Tuesday, Mars in Aries forms a rapid-succession sextile with Chiron, Jupiter, and Neptune in Aquarius, providing still more fuel for this turbo-charged three-way conjunction. Mars in Aries is a strongly masculine force and represents action, initiative, and forging into new territory. In last week’s forecast, I wrote about the unprecedented healing potential of the Jupiter-Chiron-Neptune conjunction. Mars helps you boldly go where few have gone before but where more and more of us are headed.
Jupiter conjoins Neptune on Wednesday, the first of a three-part conjunction that is one of the most significant astrological aspects of 2009. The next will occur on July 10, and the third and final pass takes place on December 21, Solstice Day. Typically, the first pass of a three-part aspect coincides with a new issue or set of circumstances in our lives. The tension builds at the second pass, and often we experience an obstacle or challenge. We find resolution at the third and final pass, or sometimes the problem simply fades away.
Stories from friends and clients tell me that we are going through a subtle but very powerful shift, and we have started seeing the signs of it over the past few months. Deep changes usually don’t happen without accompanying turmoil as our body/mind readjusts to accommodate the new information. I liken it to rearranging furniture. You tend to trip over it in the dark until you get used to where it is. Once that happens, you can relax into it and enjoy the new way of being.
Many of the stories I’m hearing have to do with relationships. I don’t know what made me do it, but I gave in to one of those cheesy ads for relationship help for women and ordered an e-book. I’m sending it back, but I’m not sorry I took the chance on it in the first place. There were a couple of good points about taking responsibility for your own baggage and not attempting to manipulate or control the other person — all advice that Neith and I give consistently.
What I didn’t like about it was the implication that women have to get themselves totally together, resolve all their issues and essentially heal themselves before they can expect to get and keep a man, and they shouldn’t expect any help from men. The author described how “most men” are wired emotionally, and I guess if I were a man, I’d be insulted. It was sad, really, and I was left wondering why a woman who had herself that together would even give this type of man a second thought. The kind of man who would interest her wouldn’t be so insecure as to need to keep her in a box with so many rules for acceptable dating behavior.
The fact is that both genders have deep wounds that go back to ancient times, and we need to help each other heal (regardless of your gender preference). Just as you have to jump into the water to learn to swim, you have to dive into the emotional messiness of a relationship to learn about yourself and your partner. The key, of course, is that you both have to be willing to go there. My best advice to anyone having relationship challenges is to talk to your partner and be very clear about whether he or she wants to do the work with you. If not, you can’t force it, or you risk deepening the wound, both yours and theirs.
On Friday, Neptune turns retrograde, with Chiron following on Saturday and Jupiter just a couple of weeks from turning retrograde. For the conjunction to happen while all the players are in slow motion makes it all the more powerful. We might actually be able to see what is happening rather than experiencing it as a big blur.
Mercury returns direct on Saturday as well, which I expect will unleash a torrent of delayed activity — if not this weekend, then next week.
Last but not least, Mars enters Taurus on Sunday, which means he will be in mutual reception with Venus for a week, until she enters her own sign. I like this configuration for working through relationship issues, especially between opposite sexes. She’s in his shoes, and he’s in hers. There’s no better way to understand another person.
Wishing you all hearts with wings,
Image: Air Castles, by Maxfield Parrish, 1903. Jupiter and Neptune may help us realize our dreams, but they might burst a few bubbles, too. It’s all part of the healing process.
The Jupiter | Neptune | Chiron conjunction is happening on my ascendant. If I am an example of what to expect my dreams, my thoughts and my everyday life are almost completely absorbed with THE WOUND. What I observe (as a healer) treating other people at the moment is that when we think relationship we should expand that to include our own anima and animus.
There is a lot to chew on in this post, thanks.
Deep changes usually don’t happen without accompanying turmoil as our body/mind readjusts to accommodate the new information. I liken it to rearranging furniture. You tend to trip over it in the dark until you get used to where it is. Once that happens, you can relax into it and enjoy the new way of being.
Love the visual, Pat!
I am in the (ongoing) middle of drastic changes in my life, and omg, what a challenge, and yes, lots of stubbed toes in the dark!
I have so such unlearning to do (in progress), and so much re-learning (also in progress)… old imprints to, if not erase, at least move beyond…
I feel like a child in a vast, mad, merry playground. You want to be there, and you know you’ll stay till “you’ve had enough”, but at the same you feel scared, overwhelmed and uncertain about 100 things. (Yes, you want to stay, and you want to run away, at the same time!!)
Just as you have to jump into the water to learn to swim, you have to dive into the emotional messiness of a relationship to learn about yourself and your partner. The key, of course, is that you both have to be willing to go there.
I’m a big believer in both these statements.
We might actually be able to see what is happening rather than experiencing it as a big blur.
That would be nice for a change…
I have a feeling that, for many of us, life won’t be the same after this week.
A breakthrough would sure be welcome…
I’m on the edge of something, and I need to flip myself over one last obstacle… but I’m missing one piece, one (the) crucial piece… to be able to move forward…
If the universe were to at least give me a clue this week, I would be most appreciative, and my life indeed would never be the same.
“Deep changes usually don’t happen without accompanying turmoil as our body/mind readjusts to accommodate the new information. I liken it to rearranging furniture. You tend to trip over it in the dark until you get used to where it is. Once that happens, you can relax into it and enjoy the new way of being.
Many of the stories I’m hearing have to do with relationships.”
Yes, I’m totally feeling this. I met a guy this Friday and I’m already feeling all my codependent issues bloom again. All the insecurities, etc. I don’t like it and it scares me. I mean, only two days and I’m already feeling off-balance in brand new ways. He’s a Leo with a Pisces Moon, like me. I’m sitting here trying to contain all my doubts and already feeling possessive. Ooh, I don’t like it! I haven’t felt like this in 16 years. What the hell.
“Deep changes usually don’t happen without accompanying turmoil as our body/mind readjusts to accommodate the new information… Many of the stories I’m hearing have to do with relationships.”
Oh yes! The Neptune et al conjunction is in my 7th house (and Jupiter will retro to station on my Descendant/Chiron, and no I don’t automatically expect Jupiter transits to be a good thing!) and exactly squaring my natal Mars in 10th. I was asking about whether I was seeking the serenity of my Libra North Node or the messiness of my Venus-Pluto natal conjunction, and the answer was that I had to go through that messiness to get to that serenity! Oh, it so isn’t easy. And I am so not at the relax and enjoy it space yet. (sigh) But I can see the gifts, too.
I was asking about whether I was seeking the serenity of my Libra North Node or the messiness of my Venus-Pluto natal conjunction, and the answer was that I had to go through that messiness to get to that serenity! Oh, it so isn’t easy. And I am so not at the relax and enjoy it space yet. (sigh) But I can see the gifts, too.
Ha! Hahaha! I can sooooooooooo relate!!! Maybe because I have the same V-P conjunction and Libra NN? :-D
Wow, ladies, this is so interesting! I have a Venus/Pluto square. Is there any more Venus/Pluto energy on this blog? No wonder I feel such a kinship here.
Wow, Jane – it certainly seems we are destined to learn much about relationships in this lifetime, no?
And Mem – aha, another Venus-Pluto person! Sometimes I wonder if anyone else can understand us!
I also have Neptune-Jupiter conjunct sextile my Venus-Pluto (Merc also conjunct V-P, which are conjoined). I find I’m learning a lot about these natal aspects as transiting Neptune-Jupiter are conjunct in my 7th house. I’m also getting transiting Pluto trine V-P and sextile natal Nep-Jup. Big focus on these energies for me.
Sigh. Yes, for the past two days I’ve been sitting here feeling all these doubts and fears centered around this ONE guy. I thought to myself, “Man, no wonder I’m so ambivalent about relationships — they really weaken me.” Here I was, feeling totally inspired and well-fed by this one creative project that I’m slowly nurturing and all of a sudden all that good mojo gets waylaid by a man I met barely 36 hours ago. Then I went on to tell my friends about it and that was even worse since I was irritated by their cynicism and negativity (ie, “There MUST be something wrong. How could he there be any good guys around at our age?” — perfectly illustrating that 3H nPluto and reenacting the women I grew up with who had nothing but negative things to say about men. I thought to myself: “Man, no wonder you guys can’t find anyone–you’re so damn negative!” Jeez, I’m 39 until August 1st.)
Finally I realized that NOTHING has really changed. I still have this great project that feeds me so well that I feel perfectly satisfied. I’m still feeling inspired. I’m still working hard. I’m still attractive to plenty of other men and… I still had an absolutely AWESOME time with him, regardless of whatever happens or doesn’t happen. None of that may take away my anxiety about wanting to see him again but even if nothing happens, my life is still pretty great. Unless… my great fear is that something WILL happen. So I think that may be it.
One last great insight: I say, “Man, no wonder…” quite a lot.
Today our physics teacher was caught outside the school stopping to smell roses…
And he get away and forgot to cancel our afternoon course, because he went away from town…
Anyway, in my town, family or in me, I don’t feel anything changed, but I guess the current situation of N. and S. Korea is telling something to us
re: BREAKTHROUGH ALERT!
I have a feeling that, for many of us, life won’t be the same after this week. Maybe you have a sense of this already.
Well, I have just had a MAJOR, two-pronged, aha moment!!!
Heading to the tub (bath kind, not ice cream) to mull it over…
!!!!!!!!!!! ::insert big round eyes::
transiting Mercury (message deliverer) is EXACTLY square my Chiron (wound) today
and this aha moment has *everything* to do with my “wound”
Might you be open to sharing, Jane? I understand if you don’t but I’d be curious.
Well, Jane, that makes two of us. And, funny thing is, I was thinking of you specifically as I was writing that bit about relationships. Somehow I knew it would resonate…
BTW, Jupiter just conjoined Neptune three hours ago. We’re all right on cue. :-)
Mem, I so hear you about that reaction to meeting someone new. If you believe the relationship advice in those books for women, then you have to fight it, be embarrassed by it, feel bad that you have it, and hide in a corner and not pick up the phone until you’re “over it.” Here’s my new way of looking at things: A man who gets all freaked out because a woman is emotional is not a real man. Without a word, he is demanding (not asking) that you carry his emotional baggage, in addition to your own. Very sneaky. Just because he didn’t outright ask you to do so, he thinks you have no right to be upset or to complain when he goes into escape and avoidance, and on top of that he can counter that you’re “needy and insecure.”
(Please excuse the gender specificity here. It is not universal, but this is the typical pattern, which is why those books for women make so much money.)
There is something to be said for mastering our emotions, but that emphatically does not mean shoving them down. Moreover, needing others is a strength, not a weakness (strains of Barbra Streisand singing “People, people who need people…”). Even needing one particular person is not a weakness. The difficulty, of course, comes when that one person doesn’t feel as you do, and then you have to move through the grief and pain. How long it takes depends on how strongly you were attached and, usually, for how long. The practical, analytical conclusion would be not to let yourself get attached. The book I mentioned in my post actually recommends to women that they not get attached during dating! That bowled me over. Play musical chairs and don’t get so close to any one person that you might actually have something resembling an emotion!
Get close! Get attached, as long as it’s not psycho glomming on. Let your feelings flow. If your partner (male or female) flees in terror, they’ve probably got a lot more baggage than you, which means you’ll have to do more than your share of the work. When you love someone, of course you’re willing to do it. But in the early stages, before you have that level of commitment, you’ll be doing work for someone who thrusts a couple of extra bags in your hands without having the courtesy or respect to ask you whether it’s OK and hopes you won’t notice.
We have to start looking at this differently, or we’ll continue to buy into the same old stereotypes and to reinforce each other’s wounds instead of helping each other heal.
Wow. I love you, Pat.
I’ve been dealing with some painful issues here for the last couple of days. It might be Saturn going direct in my 2nd house heading for final conjunction with my Sun – wanting to nail down what I really value. Feeling like the new bf’s values might not be mine, questioning whether I want to spend time with (2nd house) some of the people he introduced me to over the weekend… But then there are good qualities like emotional openness, kindness, willingness to accommodate me, etc. I was so ready to ax the thing to just escape my distress (this is not going to work for me!). But then, I think, the Jupiter/Neptune/Chiron transiting my 7th house said to look at the bigger picture. The pain is fear of loss (and loss yet again). Read something that said not all relationships of value are meant to last, but may bring important gifts, including healing. That more spiritual idea lifted things out of the either/or.
I ordered a book online on Monday that arrived amazingly quickly (thank you, Universe!) called When Love Meets Fear, by David Richo. Very timely. And from what I’ve read thus far, very wise.
the two-pronged aha has now grown a third prong
re: Might you be open to sharing, Jane? I understand if you don’t but I’d be curious.
I’m sorry Mem, I can’t. But thanks for caring enough to want to know.
re: And, funny thing is, I was thinking of you specifically as I was writing that bit about relationships. Somehow I knew it would resonate…
You touch me often Pat, even when I don’t comment. I want you to know that.
Les, Saturn on your Sun could indeed have that effect. Saturn brings out our fears and limitations, self-imposed and otherwise. Most of us, no matter how emotionally healthy we are, at some point or other fear not being good enough. Saturn on your Sun can do that. And he’s taking his sweet loving time, too, since he only recently turned direct is moving slowly. Do a re-evaluation in a few weeks, and I bet you’ll feel differently.
The title of the book you ordered is grabbing, that’s for sure. Fear is the enemy of love. That’s why I sign my posts to wish you all much love and courage. The Latin root for “courage” is heart.
Well, Jane, I wanted to thank you for the kind words but got a very rude message from WordPress that I was posting comments too quickly and needed to slow down! The nerve. It’s my blog, seems I should be able to post comments as fast as my little fingers can type them.
Or this just Mercury Rx having a little fun?
Said by me is a news: I’m becoming more sceptical.
I’ve never been realistic in my life, and since two months or so I started to think about reality as it is.
I’m a pisces rising Virgo…It seems to me that the world wants to be sceptical and realistic…Maybe it’s Pluto in Capricorn…
My particular dreams are becoming very rare and I’m losing the hope to see realized every one of my dreams.
I don’t know if people has a sorta of shame to say they have dreams, because everyone of us feels himself is a common person and the good news of the lucky people are so far from our reality.
I feel we are approaching a grim and sad history time, and knowing the autumn forecasts I’m not too hopeful about the outcome.
As the good news are so far from us, swine flu, North Korea with its people who are forced to seem parody puppets and they seem more similar to social insects than people, who are not even free with their emotions, North Korea who is leading the world to take strong actions, the leader of NK who is dying and will almost surely want to be remembered for long, he will go away with it and will leave his people to face nuclear death.
I would have to say more, like parents who left their son and daughter to smoke in front of them, knowing that is a terrible threat to their health, they even smoke together, is something despicable.
The people who have a role in the church who are the first to have prejudices, when Christianity teaches empathy, compassion and understanding of every people.
Racism who is still running full force, scientists who don’t know their limits, people who still searchs for Ufos and aliens when they clearly don’t exist, people who are waiting for big events when they know nothing they say will happen.
This is what I feel
lol, Pat :-D
what are the markers of a major geographical relocation? accompanied by a major career change, like, going in business for oneself?
::insert big round eyes::
i just got a “message” that it lies ahead… within the next year or so…
i have a brother in south-central British Columbia… i think i’m joining him there (we are very close; he is my complement)
::insert big round eyes::
what markers should I look for in my chart (in terms of transit)?
actually, “messages” in that direction have been streaming in recently, but accentuated in the last few days
I think this triple conjunction is bad. I felt and I still feel a wave of disillusion and I’m involved by the news around me when before this conjunction I was noticing a big detouchment.
I think that, given that in most of my dreams, me and my family and my friends are in a bunker, or something like this, I can’t explain this, and I tried, really tried to alert and simply to tell to some of my american friends and people near me what I dream but no one thinks something is gonna happen. I have a relief, I pray often for something not to happen.
I say to you, people, that often, when I feel sad for little reason in the evening, something sad happens the day after, and most of the times, is something who involves my town.
I know this is Neptune retrograde, the ruling planet of my sign to cause those feelings…
Jupiter from months is causing me to be indicated with envy from my classmates because they say I’m privileged, but I’m also in a period when I even forget exams and I take the same mark of people who write pages when I write few lines for each question.
Just today I have seen my young neighbor and friend who maybe was trying or faking to smoke, he is so young, he can’t do this thing, but his family is a family of smokers and he told me in the past he would like to do that.
Now, in my class, people which in the first year I didn’t like are the ones who support me and I cannot say my opionion about the people who are always behind me to give their bad opinion about me or I would cause a class war, girls against boys.
I cannot even wear short pants because my legs are very hairy and girls spend the class day to comment that, but it’s hot here and i’m sensitive to heat.
I was waiting for something very good to happen this week and nothing came out of it. So, I gave up, and I rarely say this. I will not think about that dream.
Now, guess what waits me next month? A full-days study period because of my high school exams and British school exams.
I have these period in which I’m very detouched by things and periods when I feel involved into things.
I can easily admit that I have little faith in myself, almost none, but I do everything not to let people think that. I know the meaning of obstacles very clearly, but this year and the next is just Jupiter influence.
I have a sense of excitement, a feeling that i am on the verge of something so different in my life, that from now on if i put the effort in i will see the fruits without the disappointment… like i have been given a second chance
this is after a period of what i can only describe as “dark energies”
but yeah a new dawn! …but then i am a gemini, so maybe that is why i feel lighter in every aspect
Go Nala, go!! :-)