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Ask Our Readers: How Do You Handle Conflict in Relationships?

After writing the post on Libra’s approach to fighting fair, I decided to pursue this topic a little further and see how others feel about this. Maybe you prefer to a more visceral interaction than I, with all my Libra. If so, please tell us about it.

Thus, this week’s question:

How much tolerance do you have for conflict in relationships, and how is this shown in your chart?

I’ll go first:

I believe it’s my Libra Moon-Neptune conjunction making me particularly sensitive to someone yelling harsh words at me. It feels like I’ve been punched in the solar plexus when that has happened. It is having Mars conjunct Mercury in Scorpio that gives me the means to edit my speech before it emerges.

It’s also possible the North Node in Gemini, another air sign, pulls me towards communicating my anger in a more civilized manner. The Sagittarius South Node in my first house is not nearly as good about choosing the right words.

At any rate, that’s what I see in my chart encouraging me to express my feelings, especially anger, in as non-threatening a way as possible.

Libra, an Air signposted by Neith . . .

Musings from a Libra Perspective

Libra by KagayaWith Venus, Mercury, and Mars all now in Libra, this Libra person’s thoughts have turned to the astrology of relationships and what we can do to keep our relationships running smoothly.

I have Chiron conjunct my Libra Sun natally and consequently have given a great deal of thought to how to avoid wounding both my partner and myself. Much of what I’ve learned was done the hard way but not all, thankfully. I actually paid attention to different concepts I came across in books on managing one’s relationships.

One of the keys to a lasting partnership is to choose one’s battles wisely. I have natal Mars in Scorpio square Pluto in Leo, which gives a tendency to bring the nuclear option to the battlefield. Obviously this was not a great idea, so it was necessary to walk away more often than not. In the process I found out that most issues we fight over are minor in the bigger picture, and simply calling a time out for a day or two will usually be enough to let the matter slide. The really important issues – the deal breakers – don’t go away and require a different strategy.

We have so few role models on how to fight fairly. Books, movies, and TV shows all portray couples saying very hurtful things to each other, storming around, sometimes actually being physically abusive, and then making up like none of that happened. We can reprogram ourselves to not go down that road. It’s possible to disagree without saying things like “you are wrong.” If we claim our feelings and use “I” instead of pointing the finger by saying “you,” it is easier to keep anger and resentment from escalating.

Libra is all about equity and justice and, often as not, given to compromise. While we have a strong Libra influence in the sky, it is a good time to take a look and see if we are practicing compromise and fairness in the way we interact with our nearest and dearest. Practicing moderation, another Libra favorite, never hurts either. Another idea I’m personally fond of is attempting to behave in a manner so I’m not running around apologizing all the time. Everyone benefits from hearing a kind word and receiving a thoughtful gesture.

I know I’m such a Libra, but we’re pretty good people on the whole.  :::grin:::

Libra, an Air signposted by Neith . . .

Charlton Heston: The Death of an Iconic Figure

c hestonCharlton Heston died the night of April 5, 2008, in his home in Beverly Hills, very close to the New Moon in Aries and, ironically, around the time we launched this website.

A fellow Libra, I realized when I saw his chart that he and I shared Scorpio rising and 12th house Sun, too. However, his mid-heaven is Leo with the North Node conjunct Neptune and Venus located in his 10th house, very fitting for a man who enjoyed a great deal of success on the silver screen.

His best-known role was in Ben Hur. I saw the film when it was released in theaters far too many years ago. My grandmother took all of us kids to see it and I still recall how long three hours of movie was for a small child.  ::grin:: 

Having Saturn conjunct his Ascendant in Scorpio played well for him on screen and lent a stern, authoritarian quality that blended well with the regal beauty of Venus conjunct Neptune in Leo. With his Libra Sun hidden in his 12th house, it comes as no surprise that the influence of Libra’s ruler, Venus, dominates. 

The ruler of his Ascendant, Mars, is conjunct the South Node in Aquarius, opposite Venus. He was also well-known for his strong stand on gun control and his involvement in the NRA.

His Moon in Sagittarius (the hunter) is the apex of a T-square with Mercury in Virgo opposing Uranus in Pisces, reflecting a willingness to speak out in no uncertain terms, dispensing with any vestige of Libra diplomacy on issues he felt strongly about. Pluto in Cancer squared his Libra Sun adding to the tendency to take a position and “stay the course.” With Neptune and Pluto the elevated planets in his chart, I believe there is little question he was a spokesperson for his generation.

This is my first post of a planned series on celebrities and celebrity couples. Just check the celebrity category for the latest.

Charlton Heston, born October 4, 1924, at 7:55 AM in Evanston, IL (USA)

(Libra Rules!)posted by Neith . . .